Relationships are difficult.

That’s as true for new couples as it is for couples who’ve spent decades together. The obstacles may change, but no union is ever perfect.

If the challenges you face are becoming bigger or more frequent, therapy might be needed. But how do you choose the right marriage counselor in Fort Wayne? Here are a few things to keep in mind.

Don’t Zero In On The First Therapist You Find

If your search for a marriage counselor involves five minutes on Google, you aren’t investing enough time. It’s easy to make this choice based on convenience, whether that’s proximity to your home or an online option.

But the reality is not all therapists are equal. You don’t just want a therapist. You want a great therapist.

So do your research. Send messages to multiple counselors. Learn more about what to expect. Your marriage is worth the effort.

Do Ask Questions Upfront

Therapists ask plenty of questions. Before making your choice, you should do the same.

Questions to consider asking include:

• How long have you worked as a couple’s counselor?
• How would you define progress and success?
• What do you consider to be essential elements of a healthy relationship?
• How long does counseling typically last with your couples?
• Would you ever recommend splitting up/divorce?

If a potential therapist either can’t or won’t provide answers, that’s a sign you haven’t found the right person.

Don’t Choose Your Individual Therapist

If one of you already has a therapist, the choice seems simple. He or she can simply adopt the two of you as a package deal. On the surface, that makes sense.

However, there’s no guarantee your current therapist has the proper experience. Counseling an individual and counseling a couple is completely different.

Also, if that therapist has prior experience with one of you, it can create an imbalance. When starting counseling together, you and your partner should be on a level playing field.

Do Consider The Cost

A successful relationship is priceless. But that doesn’t mean your bank account is limitless. With the average couple’s counseling session ranging between $75 and $150 per hour, the last thing you want is to add additional strain to the relationship. If your finances are tight, it’s important to consider the cost.

First, check with your insurance provider. Counseling may or may not be covered.

Next, look for an affordable solution. If you’re located in the Greater Fort Wayne area, Headwaters Counseling is not only a financially accessible option, they also have a team of experienced therapists with well-rounded approaches to couple’s counseling. 

Finding the right counselor isn't always easy, but then again, neither is working on your relationship. By investing the necessary time, you and your partner can begin moving in a positive direction.

Headwaters Counseling serves the Fort Wayne community by offering counseling that is kind, compassionate, and affordable. To get started, send us your questions.