Presents. Traditions. Family.

The holiday season takes everyone on a rollercoaster ride of emotions. But if you’re feeling the burden of grief, those feelings are even stronger.

Despite being constantly surrounded by happy imagery, this time of year is challenging for anyone who has lost a loved one. If you’d rather fast forward through the next few weeks, you aren’t alone. Due to feelings of grief and loss, a large portion of Americans would prefer to not celebrate. Last year, that number was 36%.

As you think about ways to deal with grief during the holidays, keep these five recommendations in mind.

Allow Space To Grieve

First, it’s important to acknowledge that your feelings are valid. No one should expect you to be all smiles, all the time. It’s ok to grieve, especially if this is your first holiday season without that special person. It’s all part of the healing process. Embracing your grief is better than pretending it doesn’t exist.

Set Your Own Boundaries

You don’t have to attend every party, spend time with every family member, or complete every holiday tradition. Set boundaries. You aren’t a bad person for excusing yourself from activities that are likely to cause you pain. That doesn’t mean you should completely isolate yourself, but it’s acceptable to pick and choose. You’re also welcome to only stay for a short time or leave early. 

Volunteer To Help Others

Sometimes the best way to cope with holiday grief is to take focus off yourself and put it on someone else. There are endless opportunities to help others. You could serve at a local shelter, visit residents of a nearby nursing home, or donate money to a worthy cause. The list goes on and on. No matter what you choose, you could be the reason for the smile on someone else’s face.

Focus On Your Health

This is true no matter how many times you’ve heard it. Physical health can improve your mental well-being. The holiday season is full of opportunities to eat too much and spend too much time on the couch. Rather than falling into those familiar patterns, make a plan. Scheduling regular walks with a friend, drinking more water, and planning meals ahead of time are all simple ways to prioritize your health.

Talk To A Counselor

Dealing with grief during the holidays shouldn’t be something you face alone. It’s ok to ask for help. Here at Headwaters Counseling, we offer affordable general counseling that pairs you with a licensed counselor. Together, you’ll develop a treatment plan centered around your goals. Although friends can offer a listening ear, sometimes it’s best to work with a professional. To learn more, please contact us.